I received an email, yesterday, from one of my clients who is considering whether she is in the right job.
She was updating me on something we had spoken about in our last coaching session and, then, at the end of her email, she wrote this:
“I also ended up not working this weekend, even though I knew it would be good to catch up on a few things so this week would be less crazy, but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. So, today, I’m trying to practice being on my side and not my case, as I’m realizing how much work there is to do this week.”
Have you ever worked in the evening or on a weekend to lighten your workload during the week?
Or felt guilty because you didn’t?
As I said to my client, in my emailed reply:
In the end, which will you have wished you had spent more time doing: working on the weekends, so you won’t be behind in the weekdays or being with your family?
When you work in your down time, you never get down time.
Down time is critical to your wellbeing. It improves your ability to cope, make good decisions, think clearly…not to mention, your overall joy.
Play is as much a part of your success, as work.
Or, to put it another way, here is a great post from John Assaraf’s FB page:
A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”
She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”
Remember to put the glass down.
In a high-intensity job, the work will never stop coming.
The more you do, the more there is.
So, ask yourself the deeper question:
Why am I working on the weekends and/or evenings?
Look beyond, “So the week will be less crazy,” as a reason.
What is it you are really trying to achieve?
Life is about choices and the better you understand yourself and what is motivating you, the more conscious you can be about your choices.
Let me know, if you’d like some help making conscious choices that work for you, not against you.